Are you where you want to be in life, or do you feel dissatisfied? Maybe you’ve settled for less when you’ve dreamed of being much more. The truth is if you haven’t just achieve whatever you desire in life, there is always a vital reason why. The quest comes down to reflecting on what limiting beliefs are standing in your way?
Creating your best life depends on attitude and focus; but most importantly on your values and conviction not only on yourself but also on whatever you are trying to achieve. So, it’s important to understand that you’re responsible for achieving your goals. After defining your aspirations and desires, it is also necessary to consider what are your convictions or values around them so you can determine whether they are helping or hurting you.
In fact, nothing can stop you from being a winner if you’re determined to be one. If you’re at a standstill and lack fulfillment, what’s in your way? Here are ten limiting beliefs that may be holding you back from the happiness and satisfaction you desire and ways to eliminate them.
- Not being Worthy
Unworthiness is one of the most common limiting beliefs. As little kids, we had an invincible attitude. We were sure of our blossoming independence and did reminding ourselves or any adults we had the opportunity to talk to openly that we can do anything ourselves.
We did this until somebody said or did something to crush our self-esteem. This is the beginning of the negative conversation in our mind that made us doubt anything positive about ourself. Whether yours is not being intelligent, attractive, or good enough to succeed. No one can define your self-worth but yourself. You’ve got to update those negative self-talk into positive affirmations, reminding yourself that you are beautiful, intelligent, and more than enough and that you are worthy of having a joyful and fulfilling life if you ever want things to be different.
- Not trusting Anyone
Just watching a few minutes of the evening news can make anyone feel anxious and paranoid. Do you believe that you can’t reach your goals because you can’t trust anyone for help? Maybe a thoughtless person you trusted hurt you, and you assume everyone else will, too.
We as humans are innately social beings, and you need others to be successful. While you should be cautious about whom you trust, not all in your circle are out to hurt you. Sometimes you must take risks in love and when creating your happiness.
- It’s Everyone Else’s Fault.
Psychologist tells us today that blame-shifting is a tactic that some people use to avoid responsibility. It’s too easy to point your finger at others when stuffs happened and things fall off track. It can also stem from a need to be right all the time. But shifting the blame is a limiting belief because it hinders you from taking the responsibility that comes with owning your mistakes to correct them. Being familiar with complaint just keeps us powerless. When you stop blaming others for your shortcomings and mistakes, you can make a change. To realize any achievements in your life, you also must own your responsibilities.
- People Will Judge You
Most of us deep down do not want to succeed on our goal due to what if you succeed and people don’t like you or become someone, we dislike? They may see your financial success and consider you as materialistic. So, you sell yourself short because you’re afraid these shallow people might judge you unfairly. The truth is there will always be naysayers judging you no matter what you do. Why not ignore their negative attitude and reach for the stars? The genuine people in your circle will be thrilled and supportive while the other opinions don’t matter.
- Fear of failure
This is probably the greatest limiting beliefs. You know what you want, but you’re nervous that you’ll fall and everyone will laugh and sneer, and you’ll be forever humiliated. It’s important to realize you can’t grow if you’re afraid of making mistakes. So, instead of only setting goals to avoid failure, take a risk and make them positive.
- You Don’t Need Success
A mask of self-righteousness hides many fears and misconceptions. If you don’t enjoy the success, you’ve always dreamed of, it’s easy to say it’s not essential and live in denial trying to convince yourself that you don’t need money, fame, or things to make you happy. It’s common for some people to hide behind religious traditions that equate poverty with morality. Yes, all riches in the world won’t satisfy you if that’s all you value. However, denying your dreams isn’t going to bring you fulfillment either. Wanting for exemple financial success and feel like you don’t deserve it, or even thinking that gifted or famous people are evil just because they have what they want will only let that type of achievement out of your life. Limiting beliefs like this one doesn’t make you morally superior. It’s all about keeping your life in perspective. You can achieve your wildest dreams and still be humble, grateful, and generous.
- It’s Too Late in My Life
Setting goals that require solid physical stamina may be too difficult as you get older. But it never too late to give yourself permission to experience whatever experience you want to. Reflect on your dreams and notice which ones you’ve crossed out because you say it’s too late.
This false perception can lead to internal anger and depression in later years. You can harbor regrets that will trouble you for the rest of your life or let yourself do something about them. When you read about other people who succeeded later in life, you’ll be inspired. What dreams are you waiting to bring into reality? Just because your goals may be more complicated doesn’t mean you can’t try. You may have to modify them. For example, you may not become an Olympian, but you can excel in your favorite sport.
- It’s Too Hard
If you’re a parent, you know how frustrating it is to argue with your children to finish a task. They may pout and whine. Instead of trying, they want to avoid their responsibility by saying they can’t do it. Such limiting beliefs aren’t inclusive to children. Countless adults offer this excuse because they’re afraid to take the first step toward their aspirations. Anything challenging or unfamiliar can be side-stepped because it’s too hard. If everyone didn’t overcome obstacles, nobody’s dreams would come true. Approach your goals with a positive attitude and acknowledge the difficulties. Determine that you’ll do whatever it takes to achieve your heart’s satisfaction.
- You Don’t Have Enough Resources
There’s no doubt that you’ll need money, time, and other resources for your goal plan. What if you’re living from paycheck to paycheck and own a few things? Allowing yourself to meditate on what you don’t have prevents you from working with what you have.
Consider the stories of several self-made multi-billionaire, they all have started off track but at some point, decided to do something with their lives and believing in themself, their gifts, and contributions to the world, didn’t let anyone or anything keep them from their dreams, and was able to succeed in their own path.
- Good Things Only Happen to Other People
Do you ever wonder why everyone else gets the blessings instead of you? You don’t strive to win because you consider it a waste of time with the energy of why border?
Remember the world belong to those who will be brave enough to change their attitude and show up following their hearts and go after what they really want in their life.
Finally, please always remember that the only thing that can stand between you and your best life is you, so first get yourself on board and everything else will felt into its place.
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Much love, Cecile
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