Hello everyone and welcome here…
Today, I am sharing some actions steps on how you can improve your relationship with yourself.
We all know that Self-love and self care are so important, but how do you start loving yourself?
Most people have think that self-love is selfish, that it’s all about being arrogant or thinking that you are better than anyone else.
But it’s all about the simple act of treating yourself with love, kindness, respect, and honor you gracefully direct towards others; it’s all about listening to your body, mind, and soul, and becoming self aware about what you need and desire to enjoy your life experience to its fullness.
In fact, if you want to become more in-tune with yourself and radiate positivity, it all begins with learning to love yourself, since peoples are going to love you or treated as you do to yourself.
Here are a few suggestions on how to love yourself-
1: Accept All of You, self acceptance…
Self-love is about loving all of you exactly as you are right now. It is about loving your flaws, your troubles, and all the negative thoughts that you have. It’s about accepting who you are right now in this very moment; knowing and trusting that this is where you need to be. This doesn’t mean that you don’t strive to better yourself, instead it means you love yourself regardless of where you are at, and improve what you dislike from the space of love instead of fear and hate.
2: Own Your Space and Who You Are
You deserve to take up space in this world. You deserve to ask questions and speak up. You are worthy to be here. You don’t need any special permission to be a part of this world and to go after what you want. Loving yourself is about knowing that you are worthy and that it’s ok to take up “space” in this world. When you respect yourself, and know that you are worthy, you also teach other people to treat you in the same way; and you even become an inspiration all around, a light that others can look up to!
3: Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
Comparison really is the thief of joy. Don’t fall into the trap of comparing yourself with others or thinking you should be like those around you. You are individual and unique and that is what makes you special. We all have our own journey to walk in this life and our own stories to tell. Every story or journey is valuable and special, so don’t feel like you need to compare yourself to others at any stage on your life journey.
4: Create Your Own Idea of Beauty, Give yourself permission to shine, You are unique!
We are constantly being flooded by medias about what beauty looks like, but you don’t need to conform to these standards. Learning to accept your body and the way you look is one of the most empowering things you can do.
Looking in the mirror and learning to love or at least accept what you see when you look back is a daily practice. Start by standing as you are in front of the mirror and Tell yourself that you accept and love yourself. Even if you don’t believe it at first, the more you say it, the more you will start to feel it and own it. When you do this enough, loving yourself will become a truth and as bonus others will mirror it back to you; and it will help you take inspired actions to better yourself and whatever qualities or behavior you want next with ease…
5: Realize that Perfectionism is an Unattainable Goal
Feeling “perfect” is an inside job and not something you can create from the outside. The reality is that no one is perfect, so striving for perfectionism is something that will forever leave you in pursuit. As author Brene Brown says- “When perfectionism is driving us, shame is riding shotgun and fear is that annoying backseat driver.”
Perfectionism is often fear based and is also very critical. The perfectionist is never happy regardless of what they create or do. All you can do is be who you are and do your best, nothing more, nothing less.
6: Learn to Laugh at Yourself, Have fun with that Inner critic voice…..
Not taking yourself or your life too seriously is a great way to cultivate more self-love. Sometimes we can be so demanding of ourselves or have these great expectations or ideas that may sound good but may not be the best way forward for us. By relaxing into the flow of life and learning to not take things seriously, you give yourself permission to just be who you are and find where you need to go next…, hence enjoy the moment right in front of you….
7: Everything Takes some Time, Be at ease with yourself, be patient….
You do not need to have everything figured out overnight. Everything takes some time, and every road you travel has its own rhythm and flow. Be patient with yourself and don’t feel like you need to have everything figured out all in one go. Don’t push yourself to feel in the inside what others feel in the outside;
Know that you will get wherever you need to go in perfect timing.
Thanks for passing by….
I will appreciate you sharing your thoughts below, on what action step resonate most with you and how you can make some time to improve your self-care routine…
Have a wonderful day!
Stay blessed!
Cecile